I have a habit of eating biscuit/cookie
with my morning tea. Before I venture out for my morning walk I take my tea along with a particular
type of biscuit/cookie. Other day I bought one packet of biscuits and opened it
with my morning tea. To my dismay I found the biscuits inside broken into pieces.
Though all the pieces were there I felt unhappy about it. Drinking morning tea
with pieces of biscuits felt totally unsatisfactory. Even though the number of
biscuits I ate was as usual, I felt somewhat incomplete?
Why So? Why the broken biscuits gave
me a feeling of incompleteness or unhappiness? Was it my habit that was coming
into play because of which I felt unhappy. But I had eaten the same number of
biscuits as I eat everyday albeit in broken pieces. Why I was feeling so?
Probably it is my mental conditioning? Or is it something else? Do you also
feel this way?
I do not know the neuroscience behind
it but I think a human being tries to find completeness in the activities that
he undertakes. Incomplete things create a gnawing sensation in his mind that
something is missing. We are a species where we try to find completeness,
symmetry in our day to day life. Probably our brain has evolved in this
fashion. What are your thoughts on this?
That reminded me a story.
The
story of Missing Goat
It all started one lazy
Sunday afternoon in a small town near Toronto in Canada. Two school-going
friends had a crazy idea. They rounded up three goats from the neighborhood and
painted the numbers 1, 2 and 4 on their sides.
That night they let the goats
loose inside their school building.
The next morning, when
the authorities entered the school, they could smell something was wrong. They
soon saw goat droppings on the stairs and near the entrance and
realized that some goats had entered the building.
A search was immediately
launched and very soon, the three goats were found. But the authorities
were worried, where was goat No. 3? They spent the rest of the
day looking for goat No.3.The school declared classes off for the students
for the rest of the day.
The teachers, helpers,
guards, canteen staff, boys were all busy looking for goat No.
3, which, of course, was never found.
Simply because it did
not exist.
Those among us who in spite
of having a good life are always feeling a "lack of
fulfillment" are actually looking for the elusive, missing,
non-existent Goat No.3.
From ( https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/story-missing-goat-3-ann-p)
What was happening with me when I ate
broken biscuits? Was I searching for that elusive completeness of the biscuits?
The story of missing goat syndrome is
very instructive. We are always trying to find that something which will make
us happy and fulfilled ignoring things that we have. Is it not?
Tell me how do you handle this kind
of dissatisfaction? How do you manage the missing goat syndrome in your own
life?
The Japanese concept of Wabi- Sabi
may be helpful here, I think. In traditional Japanese aesthetics, Wabi-Sabi is
a world view which glorifies the nature of acceptance of transience and
imperfection. So how can we develop that world view? What practices one can
follow to do that? Let me know. What do
you think?
“ We need to learn how to want, what
we have, not to have what we want, in order to get steady and stable
happiness.” Dalai Lama.